This is not a list of things my future husband must do before he proposes--I've got that list too but it isn't here. These are things I need to do and ways I need to grow up before I marry. This is not a "finding a marriageable man" list but a "becoming a marriageable woman" list. If I've forgotten anything important, I want to know. Some of these I've done or started on already, and a lot of them I can't do right now. But I will get them done. You just watch.
- graduate from college
- get a steady job and live on my own (financially independent) for at least a year. during that time, eat regularly (not forgetting meals) every day for at least a month
- be able to deal with people talking and giggling and gossiping about me
- stop getting really annoyed at being called “cute” (individually or as a couple)
- close my eyes
- meet his parents
- have him meet my parents
- run 8K or break 7 minutes in a mile run
- get approval from parents, grandparents, siblings (including Tony)
- learn how to cook over an open fire
- take a big trip (on a plane or at least two states of driving) on my own or with friends, where I’m in charge or one of a few in charge of what to do and how things turn out
- drive from Tapico to Houghton Lake without getting horribly lost
- road trip of at least 5 hours by myself
- learn how to slow dance with Grandpa
- do something crazy with Emily
- make an important decision in less than four months
- freelance for a daily newspaper
- learn how to cook at least 10 good dinners
- understand cars and be able to at least educated-guess what’s wrong with them
- own a car and pay my own insurance and whatever else goes along with owning a car
- get a credit card and actually buy something with it
- eat a raw tomato
- throw up
- swallow a pill
- tell everyone when my birthday is and if they insist on fussing, let them
- take my photography to an art show or fair or something and sell at least one print
- have a pool party or a beach party or canoe trip or something with a mixed-sex group of friends and dress appropriately, and not spend the whole time assuming all the men are ogling
- go backpacking for at least 4 consecutive nights
- crochet something big/complicated, like a blanket or a sweater or something
- get in a fight with him and resolve it
- wear “everyday” makeup in public for at least seven days, and learn how to do makeup
- turn 21 and drink a whole beer or a whole glass of wine (responsibly, socially) at least 10 different times, at least once at a bar and at least once with dinner at someone's home
- read the entire bible at least once through
- have a solid group of girlfriends to go out with
- wear a skirt in public for something that isn’t a dress-up occasion
- learn to drive a stick shift well enough that I’m comfortable with it
- dress up for something formal and tell all my dressed-up girlfriends that they’re beautiful
- volunteer with missionaries of charity
- change a messy, poopy diaper by myself
- kiss him in front of my parents or in some other situation that would be sort of embarrassing but not morally wrong
- make a final decision on piercings and stick with it
- eat a whole meal with chopsticks
- get a cell phone that actually works (actually, get my own and pay for it myself)
- learn AP style for “whether or not”
- take my Sobe bottle to the bank and change all the coins into cash (or deposit the money)
- successfully and consistently keep track of my cycle for at least 6 months (really keeping track, that is, filling out NFP charts)
Mary, from a man who is getting married. Here is your list shortened, in my opinion.
ReplyDeletemeet his parents
have him meet my parents
get approval from parents, grandparents, siblings (including Tony)
do something crazy with Emily
make an important decision in less than four months
and are you doing NFP by yourself? because it works a heck of a lot better if your charting as a couple because it increases your communication immensely.
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